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| the nicest kid in the world! |
It took a call from the teacher to give us a clue. "There was an 'altercation,'" she said.
Zander didn't want to tell us. He just knew there would be a consequence involving video games. He begins with his defence: "Well, Dillon's been doing stuff every day." (First we'd heard of it.) "Today he pulled my chair out and I fell."
"So what did you do?"
"I got up and punched him."
And while we would never encourage that kind of behavior I'm listening to his story thinking, "good, you need to stick up for yourself!" But what I said was, "do you think that was the best way to handle it?"
"No - he just shoved me back into the blackboard and I hit my head."
And so begins the dissection of Dillon:
"Does he pick on other kids too?"
"No."
"Who are his friends?"
"I don't know."
"Who does he play with?"
"Nobody."
"Maybe he just wants to be friends with you but doesn't know how."
"How can you not know how to be friends?"
"Maybe he doesn't have any brothers or sisters."
"He has two older sisters."
"Maybe they're mean to him. Maybe his parents aren't nice. Maybe he doesn't know how to be nice."
"Hmmm."
"What if you asked him to play with you?"
"Yeah right, he's mean."
"You could be a good example. Show him how to be friends."
Shrug.
"I'm not saying you have to Zander, it's just something to think about."
But I'm sure all he really cared about was that I didn't take away his DSi.
One week later...
"How was school, Zander?"
"Fine." Of course.
"How was Dillon?"
"He tried to break the tunnel I was digging in the snowbank."
"So what did you do?"
"I asked him to help me build it."
"And did he?"
"Yes."
"How was it?"
Sheepishly now, "fun."
And I was so proud that it came bubbling out in embarrassing hugs and kisses and he just giggled and pretended to fight it but I know he was okay with it because none of his friends were around to witness.